3 Steps to Release Attachments to Thoughts and Feelings
We attach ourselves to people, places, things, ideas, beliefs, the past, the future, the outcomes, fears, blame, fate…
But what one attachment serves us all?
None. No attachment… attachment to nothing.
So how do we do that?
Smile, smile often, smile always.
Laugh, laugh often, laugh always.
Love, love often, love always.
Breathe, breathe often, breathe always.
Release, release often, release always.
Repeat, repeat often, repeat always.
It doesn’t take much to disengage from thoughts, feelings, people, places, things- but it does take one main thing:
Are you aware when you repeat bad situations in your head, either imagined or real, over and over again?
Are you aware when your brows furrow, your muscles tense, and your jaw clenches?
What about when you feel insulted, offended, annoyed?
No one needs that. In fact, it’s detrimental in life to worry, to obsess, to point a finger.
Release attachments, one step at a time…
FIRST, become aware.
Often, this is the only step needed when overcoming attachments. Awareness is the first step to change, to heal, to release blame of any sort- whether toward yourself or toward others.
SECOND, breathe into the thought or feeling.
One last time. Think of it as an ear-worm. To get rid of it, you have to expose yourself to the song, listen to it in full to get it out of your head. So relive that icky feeling, that accusatory thought, and all the harshness it collected and created. Fele it, live it. And as you do so, inhale. Inhale deeply, feeling whatever you’re feeling, thinking whatever you’re thinking…. And then on the exhale, destroy that thought or feeling. Mentally blow it up, burn it down, evaporate it, send it away. And after the breath ends, and you’re left with a pause between another breathe, see the ashes, witness the absence of that thought/feeling. When the breath is over, so, to, is the distracting thought or feeling. If, on the first breath you still feel remnants of the situation, the pain of attachment, take another breath, destroying again, the thought or feeling. Beat it, repeatedly with breath, over and over, until it is nothing…. Stillness.
THIRD, Thank the space.
Thank it HARD. It was difficult to release those attachments, and even though the way to do so was easy in retrospect, mustering up the awareness, and setting in motion the practice to release those feelings for the greater good took effort. So be proud. Be proud of your courage, of your openness to change. See your strength of will, pat your own back- scream it to the world how awesome you’ve just been. Relish this moment.
Remember that a new time for releasing attachments will arise, but you’ve shown you can handle when that time comes again. Big or small, realized or imagined, you can release attachments to thoughts, situations, feelings, and begin again.